SAHP: Upgrades to get back into the work force #YMCCommunity

So, you’ve had a baby or more…

You spend a year at home on Maternity/ Paternity leave and then maybe, just maybe, you choose to stay home with the kids.


Finances are tight with one income, but you learn to make to money stretch and you’re OK with that. 

Five or more years down the road, when you’re done having babies and they’re now in school full-time, you may be ready to get back into the work force. Perhaps you’re still at home with a little one and could take this opportunity to enroll in a distance program that will allow you to upgrade your skills or start a new career, but at the same time be at home with the kidlets.

But the working world has changed since you last worked and now your skills are probably outdated. You’ll need to upgrade your skills and chances are, you’ll be needing to take a course or more. Maybe you want to completely change your direction and taking a course or program is a definite must. 


But, again…finances are tight because you are a single income household and monies brought in go to the most important things like bills, food, school stuff, extra-curricular activities for the kids, gifts for the plethora of birthday parties that your kids get invited to and the never ending clothes shopping for your growing spawn. Furthering your education just seems to take a back seat to all of these things. What about before and afterschool care for your kids, so you can attend school full-time?

How do you make it work?

Is there financial aid available or even better…bursaries or scholarships that can be obtained?

What about childcare subsidies? Hubby makes too much for us to qualify, but we just can’t fathom $450/month per kid!

Where do you start looking? The banks, the institution in which your desired programs are being offered?

These are things to consider when you’re planning on getting back into the workforce or going back to school.

I am a full-time Stay-At-Home-Mom…I want to take this opportunity to learn more. 


Our kids are in school now. Come September, it’ll be full-time for both.

I know what I want to do. We just need to sort out the details of before and after school care and how to pay for it!

Have you gone back to school after being out of the workforce for an extended period of time? How did you manage financially?

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Role reversal…Stay-At-Home-Daddy. #YMCCommunity

Four and a half years ago, I hung up my steel-toed boots to become a Stay-At-Home Mom, when our daughter was born.

Work boots

Prior to having kids, actually, prior to getting married, my husband and I decided that I would be the primary caregiver to our children and he was going to be the bread winner.

I was looking forward to staying home and raising our wee ones rather than paying someone else to do it while we both worked. My pay check would also have been completely been eaten up by child care anyways, so what’s the point in going back?

Almost three years later, we welcomed our Little Dude to the family. Now that the wee man is approaching 2 years old, and his big sister starts Kindy in September, days with these two can get pretty hairy.

Worn out Mom

With the fighting, bickering, yelling, stubbornness, throwing of things, and trying to prevent the boredom from taking over causing the maniacs to spin out of control and drive Mom batty, I savour the afternoon nap that our son still takes while our daughter gets the opportunity to do crafts without the “help” of her little brother.

I get to sit down, catch up on my emails, check my notifications on Facebook, and perhaps, blow out a blog post or two. Some days, I even manage to close my eyes as I lay back on the couch, while still being with our daughter. Never really having a nap because, “Mom, I need to pee! Mom, I need some water! Mom, I’m hungry! Mom, I want to watch something! Mom, can I play the game!”, tends to snap you back to reality pretty quickly.

I often pour a VERY large cup of tea in the afternoons to keep me going until my second wind comes.

Life as a SAHM, for me, can have some pretty stressful days that knock the wind right out of my sails causing me to seriously consider getting back into the workforce.

The other week, I had my eyes opened as to the stress my husband undergoes.

Stressed out Daddy

A few years ago, the economy and a business partnership that went down the toilet, caused hubby to have to find a new job. He is a born leader, takes his job very seriously and is a very hard worker. In fact, he goes above and beyond to prove his worth, only to not have it recognized in the appropriate monetary value. So the stress of providing enough of an income to support his family, babysitting grown men, and dealing with his former business woes, are weighing down on him pretty hard lately and I’ve decided that Daddy needs a break!

I’m ready to switch roles.

Switching roles

He can stay home with the kiddos now. It should be easier for him, as one will be in school full-time in the Fall, so he and the wee lad can have some Father-Son bonding time. I will look forward to having meals prepared instead of preparing them myself. Daddy used to be a really great cook and has gotten out of practice since I took over the role.

Stay At Home Daddy

A small part of me thinks, “Ha ha! Now you’ll understand what it’s like looking after small humans ALL DAY…EVERYDAY, come up with meal ideas and prepare them, keep up with the household duties, go grocery shopping, be a constant source of entertainment, be a referee, maintain a schedule with the kids and still have the energy to exercise or perhaps, have a little Mommy and Daddy Time!” (wink wink, nudge nudge).

Playing with the kids

So now, I’m searching…

Searching for THAT job. The job that will pay me what I need to support my family. The job that will allow us to buy a house, finally. The job that will afford us to get away for some much needed Family Vacations. The job I will love, succeed at and give Daddy the break that he needs.

THAT job.

Have you and your spouse decided that your circumstances weren’t working for you anymore and that a change was needed? Did you switch roles or perhaps relocate?

Christmas is for the kids…right? #YMCCommunity

For the past few years, my husband and I haven’t exchanged gifts with each other for Christmas.

We buy gifts for our kids, our nieces, my cousin’s kids and our close family friends.

Christmas is for the kids, right?

Christmas is for the kids, right?

It’s not that we don’t want to buy for each other, it’s just that the “Needs” list outweighs the “Wants” list.

If I earned a salary being a Stay-At-Home-Mom, it would be a different story.

Honestly, instead of a gift that will either get used up, worn out, or set aside, I would rather save the money that would be spent, on something more meaningful. A trip together as a family, put it into the “New House” fund or making a purchase that the whole family will benefit from.

Saving up for something important.

Saving up for something important.

Sure, it’s nice to get a little something under the tree, but this works for us…so far.

Getting fit with kids in tow.

Now that I’m done having kids, I seriously want to get into shape.

I'm not happy with this.

I’m not happy with this.

I am a full time Stay-At-Home-Mom. My kids go where I go, so I need to include one, if not both of my kids into my workout schedule.

Fortunately our eldest goes to preschool three times a week for a few hours, but that still leaves me with our 1 year old to hang out with. He’s started to drop the morning nap, so now I can take him with me for workouts.

Now I just need to find something that will allow me to workout while he’s with me.

I know the rec centre has child minding, so that is an option. There are also some studios that offer it as well. I tried a facility that has an area for the wee ones to hang out in by themselves, but Captain Clingy wanted nothing to do with that.

I’m thinking that I need to pick up a jogging stroller. I can take the wee man along with me, he doesn’t weigh too much yet and running is FREE. On the down side, I’ll have the weather to contend with. Now that Old Man Winter is approaching, we’ll have to deal with the cold, rain, ice and possibly snow. Could get treacherous. I wonder if there are indoor tracks to go to?

My new jogging partner.

My new jogging partner.

I suppose I could also pick up a fitness DVD and do workouts at home, but our space is the size of a closet and I think that if I fire up the Jillian Michael’s Kickboxing DVD that’s been collecting dust on the shelf, I’ll either kick my son clear across the room or end up with my foot firmly planted in the TV. Maybe I’ll pick up these 10 Minute Solution DVD’s that I just came across. There’s bound to be something in there that’ll work for me.

10 Minute Solution

How do you stay fit whilst caring for your young ones?